Well, there are times when you find yourself in a state of anxiety, right? I think it might help a bit if you recall what kind of situations tend to make you feel anxious.
I feel anxious when I think about other people or things that are beyond my control.
The keywords are ``tara, ba'' and
that includes people other than myself.
I think there are many times when I wish that person were like this or
that person, or when I am unable to separate issues.
Separation of tasks is a situation where you think about whose task it is, and you end up trying to do your best even though it is impossible for you to do muscle training and lose weight
in place of someone who desperately wants to lose weight.
If I want to lose weight, I tend to think frankly, but if
it's a family problem or
I'm a person who listens to other people's stories, I
easily end up doing something similar.
It will be hard if I don't solve it myself
, so I want to change.As
I listen to the people who care about me, I get tired too.
Like dieting,
there are things that you have to do somehow,
and no matter how hard you try, you can only do what you can.
It's important to feel close to others, but I think
what's even more important is to not forget that and not blame yourself.
It's the same thing if the earth explodes or an accident occurs
, there are limits to what you can do, and you
can only do what you can within that limit, but
when you keep thinking in circles.
I think I'm worried because there's nothing I can do about it.
I feel anxious when I focus too much on the past and future.The
past cannot be changed, and the future is only imaginary.
Despite this, when
you look at the past that cannot be changed, you feel like,
``If I had done this then, this wouldn't have happened.''
You might imagine a future that hasn't even happened yet and think,
``What if it turns out like this?''
When you think about things from a different dimension rather than how they are now
I think I'm worried because there's nothing I can do about it.
I suffer in the same way when I only fight with the imagination in my head and
do nothing to resolve my anxiety.
"I'm worried because I don't have money."
When you sit still and think only with your head,
the current situation will not change.
When I think about what I can do to increase or earn even a little bit and put it into practice, I
become absorbed in it, so I don't have time to feel anxious.
The clearer the anxiety, the less
action is taken to resolve it.
I'm worried because there's nothing I can do about it
I think everyone probably understands these three things in their head.
At the same time, I think it's something we lose sight of when we're feeling anxious.
That's why I think it's good to develop a habit of thinking.
If you ever feel anxious
Objectively check if any of the three apply to you.
Be clear about what you can and cannot do now
I calmly do what I can do now.
I think that alone will alleviate a lot of your worries.